This article is designed for you if you’re feeling disconnected and are looking for ways to reconnect with your life.
You don’t know how you got here but you did. You are feeling disconnected. Disconnected to yourself, your friends, your family, and the world around you. You feel like you are just going through the motions and not really living. You want to feel connected again but you don’t know how to do that.
But remember that you are not alone. Many people feel disconnected at some point in their lives. The good news is that there are things you can do to feel connected again.
It’s not easy and it’s not a one-day process I must say but if you’re willing to work at it, you can get through it. And I believe in you. And so many others that love you believe in you as well.
You are so brave to be here and to look for answers.
Why are you feeling disconnected?
There can be many reasons why you are feeling disconnected.
It is hard to find the reason yourself, so here are some reasons that I think might be the problem:
–Social media. You need to disconnect in order to connect. Disconnect from social media in order to connect to yourself. It is hard to be connected to people (and especially yourself) when you are constantly comparing your life to others and when you follow people that you don’t even know.
–Not enough sleep. When you don’t get enough sleep, it is hard to focus and be present. The feeling of being tired all the time can lead to feeling disconnected.
–You are locked in yourself. You don’t want to open yourself to others, to share your emotions, thoughts, and experiences.
–Loneliness. When you don’t feel like you have anyone to talk to or connect with, it is easy to feel disconnected.
–Too many problems at once. When you are dealing with a lot of stress, it is hard to focus on anything else. This can lead to feeling disconnected from everything else in your life.
–Your environment is toxic. If you are constantly around negative people, it is hard to feel good about yourself. This can lead to feeling disconnected from yourself and from the world around you.
The importance of reconnecting to yourself
No matter what the reason is that you are feeling disconnected, it is important to reconnect to yourself.
When you feel disconnected, it means that you are not in tune with your thoughts, emotions, and needs. This can lead to feeling lost, confused, and alone.
But after you will finally manage to reconnect to yourself, you will feel more centered, clear-headed, and confident.
Also, it is only when you are connected to yourself that you can be truly connected to others.
Many people try to find a connection outside of themselves, like in a relationship, but that is not where it is. The only place to find the true connection is within yourself.
Reconnecting to yourself
There are many ways to reconnect to yourself. You have to find the way that works best for you.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
I believe that one of the best ways to reconnect with yourself is through journaling.
When you take the time to write down your thoughts and emotions, it helps you to understand them. It’s a way to process what’s going on in your head and sort out your feelings.
It can also be a way to connect with your inner child. When you write, you can let go of all the filters and just be yourself.
And journaling doesn’t have to be serious. You can write about anything that comes to mind. There are no rules. Just let the words flow out of you.
However, here are some ideas to get you inspired:
- Write about your day. What did you do? How did you feel?
- Write about your goals. What do you want to achieve? Why?
- Write about your fears. What are you afraid of? Why?
- Write about your dreams. What do you want to do in life? Why?
- Write about your emotions. How are you feeling? Why?
- Write about your thoughts. What is going on in your head? Why?
- Write about anything that is on your mind. Just let it all out.
Doing so every day will help you to reconnect with yourself and understand your thoughts and emotions better.
Meditation is another great way to reconnect with yourself.
When you meditate, you focus on your breath and let go of all other thoughts. It takes time to learn how to do it, but it is a life-changing skill!
Meditation helps you to focus on the present moment and be in touch with your thoughts and emotions, which is essential when you are feeling disconnected.
It also helps to calm the mind and relax the body.
So there is not only one benefit if you meditate, but many!
Here are some more benefits of meditation.
Take a long walk
Getting out in nature has something calming about it. It can help you to clear your head and focus on the present moment.
When you are feeling disconnected, go for a long walk in the park or in the woods. Like really, dedicate a long time for this walk.
At first, your mind will be wandering in thoughts. Let them be. At some point though, you will start to focus on your surroundings and the present moment. You will start paying attention to the birds instead of your thoughts, and to the wind instead of your emotions.
And that is when you know you are starting to reconnect with yourself.
It might sound fancy or like something only artists do but it is not.
Being creative can be anything from cooking to painting to writing. It can also be something as simple as doodling. The important thing is that you express yourself in a creative way.
When you are feeling disconnected, it can be hard to express yourself in a direct way. That is why being creative can be so helpful.
It is a way to express yourself without having to think too much about it.
You can just let the creativity flow out of you.
It also doesn’t have to make sense. It can be abstract and chaotic. Just let it all out.
Pay attention to the world around you
When was the last time you really looked at your surroundings?
I don’t mean just looking, but actually seeing. Seeing the colors, the shapes, the textures. And don’t see them behind your thoughts. But as a child, who sees everything for the first time.
When you are feeling disconnected, it is easy to get lost in your thoughts and emotions. But if you take the time to really see the world around you, it can help you to snap out of it.
It can be a tree, a flower, or even a building. It doesn’t matter. Just take a good look at it and really see it. Observe its details. How gravity works on it, how the wind moves it.
And as you do, you will start to feel more connected to the world around you.
And to yourself.
In our society, we are always supposed to be doing something. We are not supposed to go “couch-potato”. But doing nothing is essential for creativity and connection.
Taking some time for doing nothing can actually help you to reconnect with yourself.
When you are doing nothing, your mind is free to wander. And that is when you might finally start to pay attention to your emotions.
I actually think that doing nothing is essential for a happy and meaningful life. This is because it is in the moments of doing nothing that we can finally start to think about what we want out of life.
And that is when we start reconnecting to ourselves.
Yoga is all about connection. It is about connecting your body, mind, and soul.
When you practice yoga, you learn to be in the present moment. You focus on your breath and your body. And as you do, you start to feel more connected to yourself.
I think any type of exercise can help you reconnect with yourself but especially yoga. At least for me, it has been essential in my journey of reconnecting with myself.
If it’s hard for you to meditate, try doing yoga for a couple of weeks. Yoga is a simpler path to mindfulness because you don’t have to do anything beyond yoga, your body will take care of the rest.
Remember that you are limitless
Very often we put limits on ourselves. We say that we can’t do something because we are not good enough.
We say that there is no way to get out of that depression, that we can’t swim, or ride a bike. Whatever. But it’s all in our minds. We put these limits on ourselves.
The same goes for feeling disconnected. If you do, remember that you can get out of it.
Keep in mind that you are not your thoughts or your emotions. You are something much more. You are limitless.
And when you remember that, it becomes easier to reconnect with yourself.
Find a purpose
Feeling disconnected can often be a symptom of not having a purpose.
When you don’t have a purpose, it is easy to feel like you are just drifting through life without any real direction.
But how do you do that? Sounds too sophisticated.
Just write down what you want to accomplish in the next few years. There must be something. You want to finish school, have a child, buy a house, or travel the world.
Anything. It can be something as simple as being more intentional with your life.
But as soon as you have a purpose, you will start to feel more connected to yourself and your life.
If you don’t like the word “purpose”, change it to “plan” or “goal”. It’s quite the same. I agree that “purpose” sounds too astringent.
Change your perspective
Feeling disconnected can often be a matter of the way you look at things.
If you look at life from the perspective of “I have to do this and that”, then it is easy to feel disconnected from yourself.
But if you change your perspective to “I get to do this and that”, it will be much easier to feel connected.
When we switch from “I have to” to “I get to”, we realize that life is a gift. There is no time to waste.
Try to enjoy the journey, and be mindful even if you have a task that you don’t particularly enjoy.
And as you do, you will start to feel more connected to yourself and your life.
Do something that gets you in a state of flow
When you are in a state of flow, you are completely focused on the task at hand. You are so focused that you forget about everything else. Time seems to stand still.
And in that state, you are completely connected to yourself.
It can be anything. For me, it is drawing some cute paintings from Pinterest. It’s basically copying but it makes me feel so good.
It can be cooking, playing an instrument, or writing. Anything that gets you in a state of flow.
We often don’t have time for flow because we are so busy with our lives. But if you can find even 30 minutes a week to do something that gets you in a state of flow, it will make a huge difference in your connection status.
Get rid of the clutter
Clutter can be anything.
- It can be physical, like having too many clothes or too much stuff in general.
- It can be mental, like having too many thoughts or worrying about things that you can’t control.
- It can be emotional, like holding on to anger or resentment.
All of these things can contribute to feeling disconnected from yourself.
But start with the easiest one, physical clutter. Declutter your room, your closet, your desk. Get rid of anything that you don’t need or use.
Often clutter makes us feel overwhelmed, and that can lead to feeling disconnected.
But as you get rid of the clutter, you will start to feel more connected to yourself and your life.
Everything will become brighter, both your physical and mental space. So do it. Get rid of the clutter.
Related: Your complete clutter-clearing guide.
It all comes down to your mind
If you want to feel more connected, it all comes down to your mind.
Your thoughts are just thoughts. You can control them, even though you don’t think so.
And as you become more aware of your thoughts, you will start to see that they are just thoughts. They are not who you are.
You are the space in which the thoughts arise. And as you become aware of that space, you will start to feel more connected to yourself.
The final step
You don’t have to wait for anything to feel more connected. You can start right now.
Choose one of the things that I mentioned above, and start to do it.
And as you do, you will start to feel more connected to yourself and your life.
Feeling disconnected from yourself and the world is not something untreatable. But you need to be willing to do the work and be patient.
It’s a beautiful journey to start connecting with yourself. You might find things about yourself that you never knew before.
You can discover new hobbies, you can discover that you don’t get angry anymore, and you can find that you are more patient than you thought.
It’s a journey worth taking, and I hope that you will start it today.
I hope this article was helpful. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to leave them below.
Have a connected day! To yourself and the world around you.
P.S.: All the things that I mention here are from my own wisdom, so to say. I am not an expert, just a woman that shares her thoughts with others.